Victimology and Human Energy Dynamics
Seeing our enemies as our greatest teachers is by no means easy. It is a humongous challenge. I am still working on it myself. I have learned that a good place to start is to observe your own reactions to a perceived enemy. How do you respond to their actions?
This is where choice comes in. You always have a choice in how to respond to anything. When we defensively respond to an energy attack it is usually a conditioned response — an automatic response that we have used many times in response to similar energy. The same thoughts and emotions come up that lead to the same responses we seem to automatically use. When we do not see that we have a choice to change our responses, we feel like a victim. A certain type of energy assault always makes us feel and react a certain way so we become a victim and blame the one assaulting us with the energy instead of realizing that we can choose to change how we respond to the energy. We are only victims if we fail to utilize our power of choice. The “enemy” who is assaulting us with energy is showing us our conditioned responses, thereby providing us with the opportunity to employ choice to change those conditioned responses.
You can say that someone makes you cry or you can say that you respond to their actions by crying. Can you see the difference between those two statements? The first statement is a statement of victimhood. Someone cannot make you cry if you refuse to cry in response to their actions. You are the one in control, not them. You become a victim when you hand over the control to them.
If you respond by crying you can be pretty darn sure that some deep seated issue within you has been touched. Our deepest issues involve love, in fact we can say that at the bottom of all issues there is love at the core of it. Our love issues begin in early childhood and they develop and strengthen through childhood. By adulthood they are very solidified and our reactions to those issues have become conditioned and automatic.
Love is energy. It is the energy behind everything. We need this love energy to grow. As small children we cannot intellectually define the love dynamics but we can feel the energy. We can feel the energy coming from our parents. The energy patterns of our parents are usually quite different. One may give more energy/love than the other. And it will be different, not just in quantity, but quality. As small children we do not understand but we can feel the energy and we have a strong sense of it. We need and want that energy and we learn how to get it. When that energy is withheld we strongly feel its absence and that is horrible so we learn how to get it back. The challenge of our entire life is to learn to love our selves but when we are small children we need love from the outside to grow. Most of us spend the rest of our lives trying to get energy/love from outside of us.
The very best thing any parent can do is to teach and show their children how to love themselves. This does not happen very often because most parents have not learned how to love themselves. So we grow up looking for love in all the wrong places (outside of ourselves) and we develop an arsenal of behavioral tactics to get the love we need from others. As a small child our love is unconditional but we learn that most of the love we encounter is conditional and we then start applying our own conditions in the process of developing strategies to acquire love from others outside of ourselves. What starts out as unconditional love becomes layered and layered with conditions and judgments and fears and manipulations and eventually it is hardly even recognizable as love. But it is still energy and that is why we continue to search for it and engage with others in order to develop a circuitry that feeds us energy.
Through time we learn that when we give love we expect love to be returned. The best way to get love is to give it. It is a pretty basic energy dynamic but what makes it complicated and difficult are all the layers and layers of conditions. If two people meet up and they exchanged unconditional love it would be a glorious thing and there would be no problems created. There would be no judgments, no expectations, no guilt, no fear, no clashes of perspective, no betrayal, no doubt, and certainly no victims. It would simply be a beautiful exchange of unconditional love. Both people would be enormously uplifted.
When two people meet and exchange conditional love then it can get unbelievably complicated. With layers and layers of conditions, some conditions will be complementary and mesh while others will clash. The level of energy exchanged will be determined by the compatibility of conditions. It may be somewhat uplifting, in fact it may be more uplifting for one than the other. Or it could be neutral. Or it could be a fight waiting to happen. A fight may actually provide the largest exchange of energy. After all, we are looking for energy however we can get it and have forgotten all about the love that is the basis for all energy.
The ultimate challenge is to respond to all people with unconditional love. Jesus and Lao-Tzu and Buddha and a few others have learned how to do that but very few have mastered it. When you respond to all people with unconditional love, the conditions of the people you meet will have no conditions within you to create circuitry with. Their conditions will not find any conditions within you to hook up with. So it is impossible for them to play any conditional love games with you. All of their conditions become dis-empowered. This opens them up to the unconditional love within them that they may not even be aware of. Their conditions do not get any response from you but their buried unconditional love will be awakened and brought forth because it finally has other unconditional love to connect with. When unconditional love gets together with unconditional love it is ALWAYS uplifting and empowering.
So the challenge for each of us is to become aware of our conditions so that we can release them in order to embrace the unconditional love within each of us in order to “love ourselves into existence.” We cannot always see those conditions — after all we have layers and layers and layers of them — so we create encounters with others so that we have mirrors to look in to see all that conditioning. Every encounter with another human is like looking into a mirror. We show each other our conditions. That is a gift we all give each other. We can see the conditions and interact between conditions or we can release the conditions and interact from the unconditional love underneath. Either way, those we encounter are showing us our conditioned behavioral responses, a true gift that allows us to choose whether we want to continue to embrace the conditions or to release them. If we choose not to be a victim of conditioning then we cannot be victimized. Instead of being a mirror and reflecting someone’s conditions back at them, we can flood them with nothing but pure unconditional love and they will be powerless to victimize us. And we will spark the unconditional love within them empowering them to see through their own conditions and come closer to realizing the unconditional love within themselves.
The choice always lies with us. We cannot change others, we can only unconditionally love them. We can only change our selves and how we respond. We can choose not to be hurt by conditioned energy. We can choose to see through the conditioned energy directed at us to the unconditional love that is buried beneath it. Victimhood is a choice we can say no to. We can cry from hurt or we can cry from joy. The former results from conditions not being met and the latter results from a lack of conditions.
Every encounter between two humans is an act of love because love is at the root of all energy. What makes that act of love seem hideous or hurtful or mean are the layers of conditions we act and react from. We do not even see the unconditional love at the root of it all. So we need to start seeing our conditions and conditioning and every person we meet is a mirror that affords us a chance to see them. Every person we meet is a chance to love our selves. If we feel victimized we are looking for love outside of ourselves and not getting it the way we want it. If we feel victimized we are not loving our selves unconditionally. We cannot love others unconditionally unless we love our selves unconditionally. We cannot love our selves unconditionally unless we can love all others unconditionally. That is how unconditional, unconditional love is. The only things standing in the way of unconditional love are conditions. Conditions enable us to be victims. To love our selves we must first see our conditions and then release them with love.
Look for unconditional love within. When you find it and express it, it will be reflected back to you.
This is where choice comes in. You always have a choice in how to respond to anything. When we defensively respond to an energy attack it is usually a conditioned response — an automatic response that we have used many times in response to similar energy. The same thoughts and emotions come up that lead to the same responses we seem to automatically use. When we do not see that we have a choice to change our responses, we feel like a victim. A certain type of energy assault always makes us feel and react a certain way so we become a victim and blame the one assaulting us with the energy instead of realizing that we can choose to change how we respond to the energy. We are only victims if we fail to utilize our power of choice. The “enemy” who is assaulting us with energy is showing us our conditioned responses, thereby providing us with the opportunity to employ choice to change those conditioned responses.
You can say that someone makes you cry or you can say that you respond to their actions by crying. Can you see the difference between those two statements? The first statement is a statement of victimhood. Someone cannot make you cry if you refuse to cry in response to their actions. You are the one in control, not them. You become a victim when you hand over the control to them.
If you respond by crying you can be pretty darn sure that some deep seated issue within you has been touched. Our deepest issues involve love, in fact we can say that at the bottom of all issues there is love at the core of it. Our love issues begin in early childhood and they develop and strengthen through childhood. By adulthood they are very solidified and our reactions to those issues have become conditioned and automatic.
Love is energy. It is the energy behind everything. We need this love energy to grow. As small children we cannot intellectually define the love dynamics but we can feel the energy. We can feel the energy coming from our parents. The energy patterns of our parents are usually quite different. One may give more energy/love than the other. And it will be different, not just in quantity, but quality. As small children we do not understand but we can feel the energy and we have a strong sense of it. We need and want that energy and we learn how to get it. When that energy is withheld we strongly feel its absence and that is horrible so we learn how to get it back. The challenge of our entire life is to learn to love our selves but when we are small children we need love from the outside to grow. Most of us spend the rest of our lives trying to get energy/love from outside of us.
The very best thing any parent can do is to teach and show their children how to love themselves. This does not happen very often because most parents have not learned how to love themselves. So we grow up looking for love in all the wrong places (outside of ourselves) and we develop an arsenal of behavioral tactics to get the love we need from others. As a small child our love is unconditional but we learn that most of the love we encounter is conditional and we then start applying our own conditions in the process of developing strategies to acquire love from others outside of ourselves. What starts out as unconditional love becomes layered and layered with conditions and judgments and fears and manipulations and eventually it is hardly even recognizable as love. But it is still energy and that is why we continue to search for it and engage with others in order to develop a circuitry that feeds us energy.
Through time we learn that when we give love we expect love to be returned. The best way to get love is to give it. It is a pretty basic energy dynamic but what makes it complicated and difficult are all the layers and layers of conditions. If two people meet up and they exchanged unconditional love it would be a glorious thing and there would be no problems created. There would be no judgments, no expectations, no guilt, no fear, no clashes of perspective, no betrayal, no doubt, and certainly no victims. It would simply be a beautiful exchange of unconditional love. Both people would be enormously uplifted.
When two people meet and exchange conditional love then it can get unbelievably complicated. With layers and layers of conditions, some conditions will be complementary and mesh while others will clash. The level of energy exchanged will be determined by the compatibility of conditions. It may be somewhat uplifting, in fact it may be more uplifting for one than the other. Or it could be neutral. Or it could be a fight waiting to happen. A fight may actually provide the largest exchange of energy. After all, we are looking for energy however we can get it and have forgotten all about the love that is the basis for all energy.
The ultimate challenge is to respond to all people with unconditional love. Jesus and Lao-Tzu and Buddha and a few others have learned how to do that but very few have mastered it. When you respond to all people with unconditional love, the conditions of the people you meet will have no conditions within you to create circuitry with. Their conditions will not find any conditions within you to hook up with. So it is impossible for them to play any conditional love games with you. All of their conditions become dis-empowered. This opens them up to the unconditional love within them that they may not even be aware of. Their conditions do not get any response from you but their buried unconditional love will be awakened and brought forth because it finally has other unconditional love to connect with. When unconditional love gets together with unconditional love it is ALWAYS uplifting and empowering.
So the challenge for each of us is to become aware of our conditions so that we can release them in order to embrace the unconditional love within each of us in order to “love ourselves into existence.” We cannot always see those conditions — after all we have layers and layers and layers of them — so we create encounters with others so that we have mirrors to look in to see all that conditioning. Every encounter with another human is like looking into a mirror. We show each other our conditions. That is a gift we all give each other. We can see the conditions and interact between conditions or we can release the conditions and interact from the unconditional love underneath. Either way, those we encounter are showing us our conditioned behavioral responses, a true gift that allows us to choose whether we want to continue to embrace the conditions or to release them. If we choose not to be a victim of conditioning then we cannot be victimized. Instead of being a mirror and reflecting someone’s conditions back at them, we can flood them with nothing but pure unconditional love and they will be powerless to victimize us. And we will spark the unconditional love within them empowering them to see through their own conditions and come closer to realizing the unconditional love within themselves.
The choice always lies with us. We cannot change others, we can only unconditionally love them. We can only change our selves and how we respond. We can choose not to be hurt by conditioned energy. We can choose to see through the conditioned energy directed at us to the unconditional love that is buried beneath it. Victimhood is a choice we can say no to. We can cry from hurt or we can cry from joy. The former results from conditions not being met and the latter results from a lack of conditions.
Every encounter between two humans is an act of love because love is at the root of all energy. What makes that act of love seem hideous or hurtful or mean are the layers of conditions we act and react from. We do not even see the unconditional love at the root of it all. So we need to start seeing our conditions and conditioning and every person we meet is a mirror that affords us a chance to see them. Every person we meet is a chance to love our selves. If we feel victimized we are looking for love outside of ourselves and not getting it the way we want it. If we feel victimized we are not loving our selves unconditionally. We cannot love others unconditionally unless we love our selves unconditionally. We cannot love our selves unconditionally unless we can love all others unconditionally. That is how unconditional, unconditional love is. The only things standing in the way of unconditional love are conditions. Conditions enable us to be victims. To love our selves we must first see our conditions and then release them with love.
Look for unconditional love within. When you find it and express it, it will be reflected back to you.
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